I swiped this topic from a thread of DUDE DUDE , because I didnt think it was being given the actual serious thought that coulda made it a great thread, so
Lets try it here.
Who, in your time playing TORN ( I simply refuse to use the term "TORN Career") have you done wrong? A friend that is now an enemy because of your actions, someone who didnt quite get a fair shake from you and somehow suffered for it, hell, even a stranger that you turned into an enemy when there was another way to go about things. Dig deep, I bet we can all find someone.
Nows your chance to apologize, publicly, well, because if youre really sorry, you can say it in front of all of us, and maybe, just maybe, if not get a friend back, at least lose an enemy.
I'll even go first.
I'd like to publicly apologize to Baldr .
When Baldr and I were new players together in JFB, I really liked and respected the guy, and knew, even then, that he was going to be something special in this game. We were both older players (IRL) , and in my opinion, shared the same views on many things and got along pretty darn well.. until...
An incident occurred where another friend of mine got placed in a compromising position through his own negligence and I, knowing the guy very well, immediately gave him the benefit of the doubt, and Baldr , not knowing him like I did, did not. This is where my boo-boos began..
I over-zealously defended my friend, as Im prone to do, and in the process forgot that Baldr was my friend too, and instead of treating him as such, instead treated him like I would anyone who was coming at one of my friends... poorly. This not only permanently destroyed the friendship, but cost my faction ( I was co-lead of JFB at the time) one of its best players and one of the games future stars. Just an idiotic move all the way around, on my part. I didnt have to say what I said, I didnt have to do what i did, and for that, I was wrong. I justified it for years by blaming him for not being more open-minded, but the incident that occurred was a big one, and in hindsight, there was a couple different ways I could have handled it and produced a much less catastrophic result.
He deserved better from me, and he didnt get it, and I regret that, deeply, to this day.
Now, before you all get psyched up for a happy ending here, its unlikely to come. I have reached out to Baldr in the past, and he simply isnt interested in hearing anything I have to say, on this matter or any other, and thats his right, and Ive accepted it and moved on.. If i was him, i cant say id feel any differently. I let the guy down, and I know he feels betrayed by how I handled the situation, and I dont blame him.
He, of course has gone on to all the great things in this game that I knew he was going to, and I havent done too badly for myself either, but I cant help but wonder occasionally how things woulda turned out, had I not made the mistakes I made and we woulda stuck together. As far as the few regrets I have in this game go, this is one of my biggest, and Baldr, I am sorry for the shoddy way I treated you and mishandled the situation. I take full responsibility for the end of our friendship and am glad to see you doing so well in the top faction in the game.
There... that actually felt pretty good. I have a couple others to throw out there as well, but i think that one should get us started for now.
Now its your turn, folks... lets hear em.
Lets try it here.
Who, in your time playing TORN ( I simply refuse to use the term "TORN Career") have you done wrong? A friend that is now an enemy because of your actions, someone who didnt quite get a fair shake from you and somehow suffered for it, hell, even a stranger that you turned into an enemy when there was another way to go about things. Dig deep, I bet we can all find someone.
Nows your chance to apologize, publicly, well, because if youre really sorry, you can say it in front of all of us, and maybe, just maybe, if not get a friend back, at least lose an enemy.
I'll even go first.
I'd like to publicly apologize to Baldr .
When Baldr and I were new players together in JFB, I really liked and respected the guy, and knew, even then, that he was going to be something special in this game. We were both older players (IRL) , and in my opinion, shared the same views on many things and got along pretty darn well.. until...
An incident occurred where another friend of mine got placed in a compromising position through his own negligence and I, knowing the guy very well, immediately gave him the benefit of the doubt, and Baldr , not knowing him like I did, did not. This is where my boo-boos began..
I over-zealously defended my friend, as Im prone to do, and in the process forgot that Baldr was my friend too, and instead of treating him as such, instead treated him like I would anyone who was coming at one of my friends... poorly. This not only permanently destroyed the friendship, but cost my faction ( I was co-lead of JFB at the time) one of its best players and one of the games future stars. Just an idiotic move all the way around, on my part. I didnt have to say what I said, I didnt have to do what i did, and for that, I was wrong. I justified it for years by blaming him for not being more open-minded, but the incident that occurred was a big one, and in hindsight, there was a couple different ways I could have handled it and produced a much less catastrophic result.
He deserved better from me, and he didnt get it, and I regret that, deeply, to this day.
Now, before you all get psyched up for a happy ending here, its unlikely to come. I have reached out to Baldr in the past, and he simply isnt interested in hearing anything I have to say, on this matter or any other, and thats his right, and Ive accepted it and moved on.. If i was him, i cant say id feel any differently. I let the guy down, and I know he feels betrayed by how I handled the situation, and I dont blame him.
He, of course has gone on to all the great things in this game that I knew he was going to, and I havent done too badly for myself either, but I cant help but wonder occasionally how things woulda turned out, had I not made the mistakes I made and we woulda stuck together. As far as the few regrets I have in this game go, this is one of my biggest, and Baldr, I am sorry for the shoddy way I treated you and mishandled the situation. I take full responsibility for the end of our friendship and am glad to see you doing so well in the top faction in the game.
There... that actually felt pretty good. I have a couple others to throw out there as well, but i think that one should get us started for now.
Now its your turn, folks... lets hear em.
General Discussion: Have you ever hurt someone in your time playing TORN that you now regret? Who? How? Why? Nows your chance to let em know you're sorry. Get it off your chest and even if they dont accept it and want to move on... maybe now, you can.
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