Q1: You shouldn't be buying a warlord personally; it only benefits the faction, so it should be purchased by the faction and in the armory. But warlord will put up better numbers during a war than revitalize. However, revitalize can be important for higher level players if your main purpose is shutting down enemy attacks and chains rather than gaining points. Also, revitalize is useful for events like halloween and chaining during valentines.
Q2: This depends on your build as well as your opponent's. Let's consider all available debuffs though. Eviscerate is only available on shotguns (in the secondary slot), and the only secondary shotgun is the blunderbuss which has terrible accuracy, so I wouldn't recommend it. Same with bleed, if you want to consider it a debuff. Cripple lowers the opponent's dex but is also only available on shotguns or heavy artillery, both which have terrible accuracy. Weaken is also only blunderbuss. Which leaves slow and wither, which are available on smgs, and wither is also available on pistols. If you need either, I guess they can work, but they wouldn't be my first recommendation for your secondary slot. Oh, and paralyze and stun are also heavy artillery and shotguns. So, i'm not a huge fan of either of those either. That being said, if you are a dex main, slow might be a good way to go, or if you have great speed, perhaps one of the pther debuffs might work for you.
Q3: Eviscerate is a good one, since your main damage should be coming from your primary since special bullets and mods are way better for damage than not reloading. Rage can be fun, but very luck driven, and fury can give excellent numbers as long as you don't miss and reset the bonus. (And assuming you can last defensively for a long time). Bleed and deadeye can also add a good bit of damage, and crusher on metal nunchakus is also strong.
Generally speaking, rw bonuses should help to fill the gap in your stats and ideally, you'd have several in different loadouts, for different situations. I would personally leave the secondary slot for utility bonuses and quicken, since there are many dex builds out there, and i'd use melee for debuffs, like eviscerate or weaken. But it depends on a lot of different factors.