Depression.. pls help.

Hello i am Unknown

Id like online support. Ive fallen into a longterm depression thing. And its affecting everything about me, how i act, how i talk, how i laugh. Any tips out there? Or anyone wanna be my friend, to motivate myself to keep going forward? I tried clearing my head doing gym stuff. Its not working. Please help me. I need a friend. Ive not told anyone about this yet. Im scared of them making fun of me and stuff. And i dont want to bug my real life friends and family about my problems.

Hello,

Before anything else, I would like to tell you that you are not alone. Right now you are in a tough spot, but don't give up. The best advice I can give you is to get help. I know you mentioned that you haven't told anyone, but the mindset of not wanting to "bug" anyone you know is dangerous. Your real life friends and family surely care about you, because friends and family are meant to be there for you through good and bad times, and if not that means they're fair weather friends and you should find more genuine ones. It may be daunting to approach them, but believe me, there are people who can and will help you through everything. While people online may be able to help you to a certain extent, the distance and not knowing your full situation make it nearly impossible to give proper advice, which I say as someone with a Psych background. I don't want to blindly say that it'll get better, but it will definitely if you are able to get the help you need. If it is within your means, I recommend contacting a Psychiatrist, Psychologist, or Licensed Therapist from your country to properly assess and evaluate you and can then point you to assistance that may help you. If not, try to contact your real life friends and family, who, as someone who went through the same before, will help you get back on your feet. If they are not true to you, it may not be easy on the heart to find others, but you will find many people in life who will want to support you, and regardless of how few they are, will help you. If they make fun of you, then that means that you were just wasting your time with people who don't truly care about you, so you can do better than them anyway. Believe in yourself, you got this and there are people who can help assist you. But really, my best advice is to get help from your friends, family, and if possible, a professional, all of whom would be able to better understand and give attention to your situation. Keep your head high, don't give up, and keep pushing. The path to recovery is difficult and takes years, but at the end of it it is very rewarding, and very possible with the right support

Wishing you all the best,

glitch__

Hello unknown. I understand yout worry. I too had a dark time and struggled with my mind. I dont know your situation but ill tell you what worked for me. You have to first do a bit of introspection. Sometimes its our body that rebel to our lifestyle or toughts. You have to do what makes you enjoy the process and not think. For me it was painting and writing. When i sit down and paint i stop overthinking. This is not a solution to your problems, because only you can find your own. Everyone has a natural talent they are born with. You have to find your own and invest in yourself. Depression wont disapprar in a day, its a process of finding yourself again. Good luck brother/sister i belive in you.

Hi Unknown.
Depression is a difficult and insidious illness. I understand your concerns. Asking for help from family and friends is in no way demeaning. It's worse when loved ones don't know what's going on. I'm writing from experience; my wife suffers from depression. Until I knew about this illness, communication was very difficult.
As @glitch__ wrote, seek help from a specialist therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There's no shame in it, and you can spare yourself a lot of suffering.
I wish you serenity and courage.

i understand that you about hard stuff inside and can’t share with your close ( for now ) feel free to talk with us . if u need friend to support we’re here

Is there a forum specifically for personal diaries? I think that would be a good place to express your thoughts.Not everything can be considered depression if it is something important or something that bothers your heart, your mind, or even makes you unable to focus continuously.

Hello! First of all, I am sorry that you are going through this. I think that it is quite courageous of you to write about this issue; therefore, please do not consider yourself weak.

In my opinion, your problem is not going to bother your family and friends, and the ones who care about you will definitely want to know about your situation and give you the necessary support.

Considering the fact that you've been having problems for quite some time now, and also considering the amount of influence these issues have on you, I would advise you to talk about everything to the one whom you can trust, and if possible, to a mental health professional as well.

And once again, you are not alone in this, even if it is only writing from time to time.

NU AI NICIO PROBLEMĂ,CREDEMĂ.

Hey Unknown

I'd like to echo what everyone else here has said. Even though we enjoy a certain degree of anonymity here, we've generally been playing this game for quite some time and are still playing it. But it's important to talk about it, and that's why I'm actually grateful for your transparency.

From my perspective, it's important for you to seek professional support. For a religious person, this could be a pastor or chaplaincy. However, I would prefer someone who could conduct a diagnostic evaluation to provide you with a suitable form of therapy. Depressive symptoms can occur in various illnesses, both psychological and physical. I think the relationship with a therapist has to be a good fit; if you feel uncomfortable, find a new one. Think of it as wellness for the soul. There's no reason to be ashamed of mental health issues; you wouldn't be ashamed of a broken leg, would you? (Well, it probably depends on how you broke it.)

There are also websites that offer online therapists, which might make it easier to schedule an appointment. I know www.betterhelp.com, for example, but I'm sure there are other websites as well.

There are various treatment approaches, such as psychoanalysis, psychodynamic therapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy; these are at least the most common forms of treatment in this area.

Imagine noticing that something is different with a loved one, and then finding out that this person is really struggling, but talking about it. Generally, family and friends are relieved when those affected speak openly.

Exchanging experiences with others who are affected can also help. Everyone is an expert on their own illness, and if you receive a lot of understanding and empathy from others, it can also help you overcome your inhibitions about talking about it.

No one chooses to suffer from depression. But what I want to tell you is that depression does pass.  But to be honest, there will always be minor crises that might even make you doubt your ability to overcome depression. It's important to inform your support network (family, friends, therapists, etc.) when this happens. We call it a support network because it's meant to catch you like a net if you fall. But things will get better. Try to focus on the positive, even if it's difficult.

I also wish you all the best; I think it's really great to talk about it.

Kay