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Secret_Lover [2107619]

Dear Community,

I need your help. Im a restart with a big problem. I hope for serious answers but Im aware such post will attract many trolls.
As I joined Torn some time ago, I found a player who helped me a lot, without ever asking something in return. We had great conversations and I was given money and items. I often asked why, but the answer was always: I was a noob too and I know how hard this can be. Ive had help from my friends and now I want to give something back.
As we spoke to each other, I fell more and more in love with her. I know this sounds stupid, but she understood me. She was always there for me, wishing me good mornings, giving me advice and a thing I would consider more than just friendship. As I felt really strange about this, I decided to restart and cut all the conversations with her (without explanation). But my feelings getting stronger and I have no clue, how to deal with them.
Discussion:
Do you think its possible to fall in love with someone you know just trough Torn?
Are there any couples who found love in Torn?
Is there a good strategy, should I tell her my feelings? Or how could I show her my feelings?
Its really not a sexual thing or something, its about feelings

Things that may could help: She loves animals and is very social. She lives in Europe (as I do) and often helps new players. Shes very open-minded but never exposes herself in an excessive way.

Please help me!
YEAR_ZERO [108862]

There are examples of torn couples and even families! I started playing due to my then bf (now husband) playing and carried on when he quit.



At the end of the day it is hard to give good advice in this case. She may well not feel about you as you do about her. But you seem genuine so I guess it has to be worth at least trying to talk to her and finding out?
Stiffler1493 [462052]

uh, realistically, aint nothing gon come of it. How long has it been since your restart? And on top of that how longs it been since you had contact?

Are you from Europe too? Do you think she will be forgiving? Do you know her profile or is it something youre looking for again?



My advice, put yourself in the personals
Madbranch [1935018]

"Do you think its possible to fall in love with someone you know just trough Torn?"
Yes. Talking with people, getting to know them, no matter where, it can lead to love.

I'd say you should go for it. Better to just tell her than to keep it to yourself and mull over it over and over.

Even if she tells you no, whoever she is, she sounds like someone normal enough to not get creeps from it, so worst case you get a no and remain friends.

And if she does tell you no, don't stop talking to her. Keep the friendship alive. Real friendships are rare in games like this, I for one treasure every one of them. Even if I sometimes do foolish things.
Secret_Lover [2107619]

Thanks for the help!!

In not sure how to tell her. Shes married in torn (I know that doesnt mean anything) but she mentions him also on her profile. I want her to be happy and I really dont want to overcharge her.

Should I consider doing something with animals?

:( Im sorry to bother you with my problems




CaptainAssClown [66612]

Honesty is the best policy...in anything....especially Love and it's so so many facets.

My advice...step oUT and speak your true self...might hurt....might lead to a lifetime friendship.

Without takiing risks...we don't grow.

And even if that risk fails and hurts...the "true" tears will fall to the ground and what was meant to be be will blossom from them.
manic [1554958]

This sounds like the beginning's of an episode of "24 hours in police custody".

They haven't done a 'cyberstalking' one yet have they?

I KID!

"The only regret I have isn't what I said, but what I didn't" - Abraham Lincoln.
KarmaCop [365532]

Best thing is make a public thread professing your feelings and get random people on the internet to comment on it

oh, n/m